When I experienced an avalanche of serious and traumatic “life events”, practically simultaneously and culminating a year ago, I knew I would not be able to function or even cope in my normal daily life without some kind of professional-level help. My upbringing did not look fondly upon the expression of emotions – but I knew what I’d experienced was not something I would be able to “pack away”, without it exploding out – to negatively impact either myself or others.
I did not want to go to a traditional therapist and have prescriptions thrust upon me to dull my senses, nor did I want to have any organized religion reciting standard cliches as a solution. A good friend recommended Nora to me for grief counseling, and for making that connection for me, to that friend I am forever in debt.
What made my experience special with Nora is that she listens intently to what I am saying – and more importantly – she is able to parse out what is REALLY the underlying problem for me, even when I am unable to fully articulate it myself. Then she offers a variety of options for me to consider trying, based on what she has learned has worked well for others who have also gone through their own intense, personal grief experience.
Sometimes the questions she asks are not comfortable to think about or answer, and the sometimes atypical solutions she proposes may feel awkward or even scary, but in every case when I listened to and tried Nora’s ideas out, I found overwhelming relief from the depth of my pain.
Nora also helped me find coping mechanisms that worked for me, and techniques that – while not always emotionally easy for a “hide your true feelings” kind of person like me – gave me the confidence and strength to survive the worst moments that I have endured. I know this pain can never completely be erased from my life, and I did not expect or want that. But learning in personalized, 1-on-1 sessions, how to manage and dissipate those feelings of intense grief in a more controlled way, has put me in a place I never thought I’d be in such a short span of time.
Every penny I may have put towards my time with Nora was among the best money I’ve ever spent in my entire life. My family, friends and coworkers remark how happy they are for me that I found Nora, as she has been a godsend. I cannot imagine what a psychological mess I would be now if I had not had the support of Nora over the past year, seeing her every 2 weeks for just 2 hrs each time, to work through my feelings and progressive phases of grieving. I’m sure I’d have become an alcoholic (or worse), trying to medicate away the feelings I had no way of knowing how to handle or process, and this would have ruined my life completely.
If you can relate in any way to what I have just written, you need to make contact with her, invest the time and money, and open up your way of thinking to let Nora help you too. Your life can be so much better than what it is now, and you deserve to be happy again. We all have reasons for why we are living the lives we have, and when yours has given you more emotional burdens than you think you can bear, I believe Nora can help you. Sometimes we all need a close personal guide that can help us more completely understand why we experience what we do, but then also appreciate and value of those painful times as well. Based on my own experience with Nora, I cannot think of any better advice to give you but to reach out to her, and be open to the best changes in your life that are yet to come.